Just wanted to clarify that I didn’t think my own friends were vacuous once they became Mothers. If anything, I assumed (without any evidence) that they had to be bored a lot of the time -you know, in addition to the incredible highs that came with their cutie pies.
That’s why I was surprised by my reactions to the Mums in my groups -I hadn’t realised I had such a negative generic stereotype in my head.
And I do think, as Lena said, that it comes from the corporate culture where if you take time off for any reason, you’re seen as less serious -less of a player.
I think things would be very different if most men took several months out to care of kids. I bet the whole issue of ‘missing out’ would shift.