We have the best family and friends. As is evident in the comments. But also in the number of gifts that are sitting in our living room. As discussed with our friend Amber, I never realized how much people love babies and how much of a present occasion it is. Now I realize what a crappy friend I’ve been to people who have had them.
It’s amazing, this having a baby thing. People are so excited about it. Current parents talk to you with such a glow -and also a sense of ‘welcome to the club.’ Which I must say is a bit of an odd feeling pre-birth. As if they’re sharing an experience with you but you’re not quite sure what that will be yet.
And the whole sharing clothes and things too. There’s a hidden trade economy going on back here. My friend Jess loaned us a huge list of stuff like a stroller, a bassinet, a sling, a sterilizing container… My friend Ramona sent a fabulous maternity dress from France… And the family handed us a huge box of blankets and clothes. It’s a real culture of giving. Like the whole world rejoices at this new little wiggle thing.
And it makes me wonder when it goes away. I know this isn’t a new thought, but when does the celebration turn into the irritation with obnoxious kids. Or the need to control those teenagers. When does it become ok to kill grown men?
I was watching TV the other day and I kept seeing Gus in the faces of little boys, police men, and even in the serial killer character. It made me love them all the same way.
Yet, somewhere along the way a line is passed somehow. Just curious to see when that happens. Surely not while he smells as good as he does now.