Update

First a bit of background.  We had two options for hospitals where my OB delivers.  We first chose the one that had the most modern rooms and the best anethetiasts. But then the more I read about the natural methods, the more I liked the sound of it. Apparently, if you stay relatively calm during labour, it doesn’t get too painful.  Natural endorphins kick in and the contractions are perfectly timed with rest periods. It only becomes painful if stress creates adrenaline that override the endorphins.

So we switched to the other hospital because it has a birthing centre -a separate section across the hall from the labour ward, staffed by midwives and all set up for natural labour -including big spa tubs.

Between my zen practice and my childbearing hips, I was all set and phyched up for giving it a go without an epidural.

But over the past two weeks, it’s become clear that the baby is breech (head is up when it’s suppose to be down) and not likely to turn. Also, it seems I have low fluids in the embriotic sac. This scared the crap out of us at first but then Charles’ Mum looked it up on a special medical site and found quite a few studies that show that with all else being normal (which it is), it’s not an indicator of anything wrong.

But what it does mean is that I’ll most likely have to have a c-section.

And of course, this week there are all sorts of articles in the paper about how much better natural birth is for the kid than c-sections.

So, I’m a bit bummed but getting used to the idea.  And overall just totally grateful that I live in a time where it’s highly likely we’ll both be ok no matter what.

20 thoughts on “Update

  1. Hi Em, I am sorry this has not turned out the way you envisioned it and I too am more than happy that you and the babe will both be okay. There was a time when this breach thing would not have been known until way too late for both the mom and the child. As for the c-section, do they ever time it for right after labor begins? I don’t know anything about the best way to do c-sections. I asked because something has to get the body’s juices natural to birthing going, for example to start breast milk production. I guess I should just go on line myself and look this up. Can Charles be in the room when your child is born? Love, Aunt Lani

  2. Hey Em. I totally get your disappointment and I would be, also. But word to what Aunt Lani said about being grateful for the forwarning of so called complications. I know another woman coughyourcousincough who had some issues with fluid level in the last few weeks. You and your baby are in good company.

    Isn’t it possible to remain awake during c-sections now?

    Big good hugs for all three of you.

  3. I understand your disappointment, but you know what?

    If it has to be a C-section, it will still be an amazing experience. (My friend had a C recently and it only took fifteen minutes. She and her husband were both there, awake, and they found it brilliant. Hmmm, compared to thirty hours of labour…. )

    The only hard thing is that the recovery takes longer, but still, what a female body, and especially a fit one like yours, is capable of is amazing.

    When that baby arrives, I reckon you won’t care how he or she got here. And I think it’s a plus you know about the breech position now, beforehand, as your aunts point out, so you can mentally prepare yourself for the C-section.

    That’s my theory, anyway. Can you tell I’m epidural and drugs and high-tech hospital ALL THE WAY?

  4. Oh and I reckon all of us should ignore those articles in the paper, designed to make women feel like failures if they don’t birth/breastfeed/mother perfectly. I think the pregnancy nazis become motherhood nazis once the baby is born.

    Plenty of healthy, happy, well-adjusted babies are born via C and fed on formula.

  5. I’m sorry too that it won’t be what you expected or hoped for, but I have to second what everyone is saying…that the result is going to be the same regardless: a beautiful, living, breathing being who will be a piece of both of you two. Hopefully with the same humor and the same outlook, that life is a great thing to be lived and experienced.

    I had always been set to do this thing at home, in familiar surroundings, and now after being tired all the time, I realize that I want to do it in a place that will take care of all the details and will respect my minimal intervention wishes, but will take the baby while I get some sleep. And I don’t want to feel guilty about that. If I was younger and in a different place, I might still want the home birth…I’m too old now and I just want my sleep 🙂

    Regardless, for you, the experience will still be wonderful and full even if you’re not pushing a watermelon through an opening the size of an orange 🙂

    I’m sending my love to you in the last weeks. It’s the home stretch! I can’t wait to see pictures!

  6. Famous Male Births Throughout History

    Fonzie – C section

    Chachi – Natural

    Almanzo – C section

    Mr. Edwards – Natural

    Jesus – C section

    Julius Ceasar – Natural

    Juan de Fuca – Natural

    Rin Tin Tin – C section

    If you need more info just ask.

  7. What Lex said about the female nazis surrounding birth and motherhood. I had to get over myself with the birth of my two little grandgirls. Different environs, each suited to the parents, both fabulous. Both births marched to the drum of the mother-to-be and their wishes were honored and they had control. That is all that really matters, second to the health of mom and baby. I surely hope you don’t have any “professional” mom insinuating differently.

    And Amanda speaks wise about the joy of having some time to rest. You will find that sleep will become your greatest desire and the most wonderful gift anybody can give you.

    I am so excited to find out if I have a grand-niece or a grand-nephew and what kind of nickname I can come up with. I love you Em. I’m jazzed.

  8. Hi you dearies….my neice had a c-section and had no problem producing milk. She had to take it easy for a few days but that’s what you should be doing anyway, loving and bonding with your new babe. Can’t wait to hear the good news!

  9. Wow. Thanks for all the great responses. I can’t tell you how great it is to have all this -like a big kitchen table with everyone sitting around with cups of tea and coffee. I love it.

    It’s a funny thing this topic -there is such passion behind both approaches to labour. My North Shore friend Nic just wrote and asked me if I was secretly “Too Posh to Push” Hilarious.

  10. I was thinking of another perk to c-section…you get to have some input on the actual birthday date. How many of us get to do that????

  11. I know. I wonder what Mom would say about that when it comes to Astrology. Makes me think our star signs should be based on the conception date somehow. Or the first kick.

    If all goes that way, I’m currently booked in for the 20th of Feb, by the way. Wednesdays are c-section days, you see.

    : )

  12. 20 Feb. 2008…..Full moon, lunar eclipse…should be quite an entry. On that day Buffy Saint Marie and Ansel Adams were born. No matter, it will be your little bundle of joy. And, yes, Linda would have a chart done the minute your babe is done!

  13. Thank you Connie! Sounds like a very good day.

    It will also be a Rat by the Chinese calendar which applies to all of the babies born this year:

    “For those born in these years, the key word is “charm”. Highly adaptable and creative, quick-witted, sociable, and intelligent. Appealing outward personality typically hides a crafty and opportunistic personality. They tend to be very talkative and are seldom found sitting quietly by themselves.

    The Rat is very quick-witted and can accomplish in days what some may take months to do, but they are typically perfectionists and difficult to work around despite their exceptional talents.”

  14. Does it have to be something funny – or would merely witty be enough for a little sumthin sumthin?

    Wit doesn’t necessarily have to be funny. I am witty all the time and a lot of that time nobody laughs. That’s how I know.

  15. Wit and humour are both accepted. As are fart jokes. So if it takes after its father, the latter should pull it over the line.

  16. “jake Says:
    January 20th, 2008 at 8:58 pm
    Famous Male Births Throughout History

    Fonzie – C section

    Chachi – Natural

    Almanzo – C section

    Mr. Edwards – Natural

    Jesus – C section

    Julius Ceasar – Natural

    Juan de Fuca – Natural

    Rin Tin Tin – C section

    If you need more info just ask.”

    ok i need more info…. I had no idea these guys gave birth??? Wow, that has just turned my whole world upside down.

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